"That would be the downside of being inexperienced and kind of...I don't want to say immature, but its a more kid way of thinking than adult," Wash said. Which was honestly why Wash thinks he struggled with Cole. Wash isn't used to that kind of mindset.
Even Choco was thinking like an adult in a lot of way by the time they met.
There is a reason Wash has less confidence with children who aren't already kind of fucked up.
"Kids are self centered. They make everything about themselves. And he fully believes it. He believes everything bad happens because of him versus something else fucking with him. He's the cause, he's the blame, and even you not trusting him, its not a failure on your part, its a failure on his because he can't make you trust him, and clearly he should be able to. Which isn't fair and is kind of a dick thing to do, but hopefully the therapy DOES help that," Wash said.
He lightly rubs his ears and nuzzles his shoulder. "Which doesn't make it hurt any less for you. Its one of those rock and a hard place moment and why getting rid of the pillar thing is a good idea, because its a lot easier to navigate all that without worrying about him existentially. But you also feel more stress because you love a lot and pretty intensely. You don't want him to hurt either and if he feels less anxious, it'll probably help you feel less anxious too. Even having him do stuff like help you pick the fruit in the green house or clean and organize the theater might help."
"Cole was stolen from his family at 8 years old. And had much of his memory removed at least once." So Macaque can forgive a little immaturity.
Still, Wash makes a good point. As usual.
"I hope therapy can help. Or else we won't be in each other's lives anymore, and I don't want that."
The ear Wash rubs flicks a bit. And he blushes slightly at the callout that he loves intensely.
"I definitely don't want him hurt. And if I tell him that he's not helping me he definitely would be. I'm glad you think that ending the pillar arrangement between us will help."
"I know. Just give it time. Therapy is a process. He'll probably need to be reminded to be patient too," Wash said.
Hey, he's just calling out objective facts.
"Its a lot. And its hard to step back. Its hard to say you have a limit, but people do. Choco and I have some pretty rough stories in Kyriakos. One of the things she had to learn was to step back for herself, even if I was hurting badly, because there were times I would have dragged her down with me. It sucked, we didn't like it, but it was the better call in the long run. Better I have some rough patches alone and she could help with the less rough, and we both get to the other side than both of us crashing and burning because she took on too much for someone who was a trashfire," he said. "He'll be hurt. But better the really rough patch for a short time, than crashing."
"I'll try to." Even if he just wants this fixed. he doesn't do well with missing the people he loves.
He gives Wash a soft look. "Probably for the best, you and Choco." He's seen how Wash gets during those times. "But for the record, I adore this trashfire."
"Mm, I know he'll be hurt. But my mind will be free of the stupid drama and he'll know that my being with him isn't obligation." Macaque has more than once come very close to a panic attack over the pillar thing. It's not good for him, and it's been terrible for their relationship.
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Even Choco was thinking like an adult in a lot of way by the time they met.
There is a reason Wash has less confidence with children who aren't already kind of fucked up.
"Kids are self centered. They make everything about themselves. And he fully believes it. He believes everything bad happens because of him versus something else fucking with him. He's the cause, he's the blame, and even you not trusting him, its not a failure on your part, its a failure on his because he can't make you trust him, and clearly he should be able to. Which isn't fair and is kind of a dick thing to do, but hopefully the therapy DOES help that," Wash said.
He lightly rubs his ears and nuzzles his shoulder. "Which doesn't make it hurt any less for you. Its one of those rock and a hard place moment and why getting rid of the pillar thing is a good idea, because its a lot easier to navigate all that without worrying about him existentially. But you also feel more stress because you love a lot and pretty intensely. You don't want him to hurt either and if he feels less anxious, it'll probably help you feel less anxious too. Even having him do stuff like help you pick the fruit in the green house or clean and organize the theater might help."
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Still, Wash makes a good point. As usual.
"I hope therapy can help. Or else we won't be in each other's lives anymore, and I don't want that."
The ear Wash rubs flicks a bit. And he blushes slightly at the callout that he loves intensely.
"I definitely don't want him hurt. And if I tell him that he's not helping me he definitely would be. I'm glad you think that ending the pillar arrangement between us will help."
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Hey, he's just calling out objective facts.
"Its a lot. And its hard to step back. Its hard to say you have a limit, but people do. Choco and I have some pretty rough stories in Kyriakos. One of the things she had to learn was to step back for herself, even if I was hurting badly, because there were times I would have dragged her down with me. It sucked, we didn't like it, but it was the better call in the long run. Better I have some rough patches alone and she could help with the less rough, and we both get to the other side than both of us crashing and burning because she took on too much for someone who was a trashfire," he said. "He'll be hurt. But better the really rough patch for a short time, than crashing."
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He gives Wash a soft look. "Probably for the best, you and Choco." He's seen how Wash gets during those times. "But for the record, I adore this trashfire."
"Mm, I know he'll be hurt. But my mind will be free of the stupid drama and he'll know that my being with him isn't obligation." Macaque has more than once come very close to a panic attack over the pillar thing. It's not good for him, and it's been terrible for their relationship.